Table of contents:
- Father's love turns out to be able to overcome the child's loneliness
- What's the difference with mom?
- How to build closeness between father and daughter?
Parents are true guides and role models for their sons and daughters. There are no special differences, both father and mother, have a big role in the development process of each child. Uniquely, a recent study found a strong bond between father and daughter can help children cope with feelings of loneliness.
Father's love turns out to be able to overcome the child's loneliness
Initially, researchers from Ohio State University found that girls who were not very close to their fathers were more likely to be enveloped in intense loneliness than girls who had close relationships with fathers.
This conclusion comes after a study published in the Journal of Family Psychology which conducted a survey of nearly 700 families. Researchers asked parents to rate and describe their personal relationships with children in grades 1, 3, 4, and 5 of primary school. The aim is to determine the degree of closeness and conflict that often occurs between parents and their children.
As explained by Julia Yan, as the main researcher and doctoral student at Ohio State University, there is a level of closeness that has begun to decline and conflicts have become more frequent between parents and their children during that time.
According to him, it was because children at that time were learning to grow more independent, starting to make friends with their peers, to spending more time outside the home. All these things trigger conflict in the family, which unconsciously fosters a sense of loneliness in children.
After further investigation, it turned out that the level of loneliness of these children decreased when they were surrounded by their closest friends. In fact, it can be completely lost to fathers and daughters who are closely related.
On this basis, Xin Feng, another researcher, revealed that the figure of a father holds an important key in protecting and helping to ward off feelings of loneliness experienced by his daughter.
What's the difference with mom?
Although this research focuses more on the relationship between father and daughter, this does not mean that mothers do not have the same influence on the development of their daughters. As we know, from birth mothers have been responsible for the needs of their children. Starting from breastfeeding, eating, bathing, and so on.
Meanwhile, fathers have a different way of showing affection for their children - especially daughters - with what mothers do. Fathers generally have unique emotional contacts to interact with their daughters, which in turn can have a positive impact on children's development.
Well, this difference is one of the reasons why this study prefers the point of view of fathers and daughters.
Feng advises fathers with daughters to pay more attention to what their daughters are feeling, especially when they are sad and disappointed. Try to help your daughter through her difficult times.
However, it must be remembered, both parents still have an important position as forming the child's identity from childhood. That is why, as much as possible create a harmonious family environment so as to make each member feel comfortable in this family.
How to build closeness between father and daughter?
Actually there is no specific way that regulates how to cultivate a good relationship between father and daughter. Because everything returns to the treatment and attitude of the father towards his daughter. What you might do is get more involved in each child's development.
Don't think that only the wife plays a big role in monitoring the development of the child. As both the father and the head of the family, you also have responsibilities just as important as your mother. Although maybe in a different way.
From a young age, teach your daughter new things to learn, listen to her every complaint, and try to understand what she is going through. You can also take the time to quality time together, give praise for their achievements, and other activities that can strengthen the closeness of you and the children - both boys and girls.
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