Your partner is sad? this is something you can and shouldn't do

Don't do this when your partner is sad

Some things that you might think can comfort him when your partner is sad, can actually make the situation worse. Better, don't do this to comfort him who is moping.

1. Asking questions continuously

Asking what makes him sad or upset, or if he's okay, it's okay to just check the waves.

It's okay to ask “I see you are so sad from this morning. Want to tell? " to just check the waves. However, don't immediately bombard him with nagging questions - “What's wrong with you? How come you don't want to tell? You don't believe me, do you? Who pissed you off?"

The problem is, not everyone is ready or used to express their feelings openly. This barrage of questions can only add to his emotions. If he refuses to vent, leave it first until his emotions subside and he is ready to talk.

2. Underestimate the problem

Everyone has a different reaction and way of addressing a problem. For example, he feels sad because his office manager rejected a project proposal. Maybe for you this is just a trivial matter, there is still time and other opportunity to make other suggestions. Even so, he might view her in a different way. He may think this is the only golden opportunity to launch his career.

Don't underestimate the problems your partner is experiencing. Instead, he feels that you don't care about his feelings, and he feels even more sad.

3. It doesn't matter

Some people choose to be alone when they are in trouble. If this is what your partner wants, then you should respect their decision. Even so, it does not mean that you will immediately become really ignorant of his condition. This is a wrong step that could lead to an even worse conflict. If you really shut up your partner, then he could assume that you really don't care about him.

Then, what should be done?

The most important thing when your partner is sad, angry or upset is to show that you care and respect him or her. How to?

1. Hug and stay for a while

When your partner is sad, angry, disappointed, or even crying, the number one thing you can do is provide comfort. This could be by hugging, stroking your shoulders, rubbing your hair, wiping your tears, or even letting your partner lean on your shoulders for a while.

A warm touch can relieve feelings of sadness and irritation. It can also indicate that you are there for him and that you support him to get through this, without even saying a word.

You can also provide their favorite snack or a cup of hot tea to help them relax more.

2. Convince him to be able to face the problem and don't argue

At this point, it's important to reassure your partner that things in general will go away and be okay. Avoid arguments that seem to offend your partner. Don't try to fix the problem by acting alone without his consent.

Just agree with what he is making out or saying. Help your partner who is sad or angry by trying to fully understand him or her. The point is, whatever you do, don't even pretend to tell him what he should have done and what mistakes your partner has made. This will only cause a fight or make the situation worse.

3. Let him cry

Sometimes people just have to cry when they are in trouble. This is a release of emotional reactions that can have a positive impact on mentally.

Don't tell your partner to stop crying or even forbid him from crying (yes! Don't stop a man from crying if he wants to cry). Let him vent his emotions.

If your partner starts to get hysterical or sobs into a sob, tell him to take a deep breath, sit him down in a comfortable place, offering him a drink and a hug.