Table of contents:
- Humor, the key to a relationship to stay warm and lasting
- Recognize your partner's humorous style
- Look for a common sense of humor
- Doing activities together
Your sense of humor can affect your relationship. The results of a number of studies have even shown that humor can be the key to a lasting and romantic relationship. In research conducted by psychologists from the University of North Carolina, it is revealed that couples who laugh frequently together have a stronger relationship. However, what if you and your partner have different sense of humor? Can this situation threaten the harmony of your relationship?
Humor, the key to a relationship to stay warm and lasting
Humor is often used to defuse a tense atmosphere. This also applies to you and your partner who are at odds with each other.
In a relationship, apart from mutual respect and understanding, humor is also needed. The humorous attitude shown when you are at odds can make the atmosphere feel more relaxed. By using humor, your partner will find it easier to find a way out of the problem at hand.
Unfortunately, not all people's sense of humor is the same, so are you and your partner. It could be that when your partner is trying to flirt in his way, you don't laugh or don't find it funny.
Even though it is the effect of laughter that actually brings feelings of happiness. When laughing, the brain releases endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin, which are hormones that can relax the body and reduce stress.
So in order to keep your relationship warm and lasting, you can, really, share laughter with your partner who laughs with your partner, even if you have a different sense of humor.
Recognize your partner's humorous style
What you think is funny, your partner doesn't necessarily think it is. According to a survey conducted by eHarmony in 2017, this is because everyone likes a different style of humor.
Some love to joke through silly and attractive gestures (physical humor) or also known as slapstick . Some are comfortable expressing themselves in humor that contains sarcasm or dark humor . Others like jokes that are self-deprecating. Or there are those who like to play with words so they are good at making them a pun .
Therefore, don't immediately judge your partner as having a worse sense of humor than yours. Naturally, if you and your partner are not always on the same frequency in responding to certain things. After all, basically everyone does have their own preferences.
Look for a common sense of humor
Couple sitting on sofa
Different tastes do not mean that you are reluctant to compromise with them. Romance expert Connell Barret says you can connect with your partner through humor by looking for common tastes in different styles of humor. The reason is that not everyone likes only one type of humor
Even though it's not your main preference, maybe you and your partner both enjoy clichéd and tacky jokes like getting back at rags.
However, if you still don't find common ground, be more open with your partner's sense of humor. Try to join in the joke with the same style of humor, who knows you might even become more expert than your partner.
Doing activities together
After understanding each other's humorous style, now is the time for you to take the time to do activities together with your partner, which of course relates to your preferred sense of humor.
For example, re-watching a comedy film that you both think has a humor that suits your tastes. You can also try various games or just have dinner together to talk about funny things that are happening in your life.
You don't need to do it all the time because the most important thing is not how often you and your partner laugh, but how quality these moments of togetherness are for your relationship.
