Table of contents:
- Reasons for lack of confidence can ruin your love journey
- Insecurity can rob you of the intimacy of your relationship
- Is there a way to increase self-confidence?
Self-confidence is needed in all aspects of life, in a positive way, of course. Unfortunately, sometimes we feel inferior or inferior. This can secretly hamper many things in life, including your relationship with your partner. For more details on the effect of a lack of confidence on your love journey, see below.
Reasons for lack of confidence can ruin your love journey
Try to remember again, have you often quarreled with your partner because of trivial, unimportant things, even those that can be discussed properly? If so, it could be based on a lack of self-confidence, either in you or in your partner.
Maybe you are wondering, how can self-confidence affect a relationship? You see, when you are enveloped in feeling unsure of yourself, this will unconsciously affect your attitude towards your partner.
Starting from questioning a partner's commitment, getting jealous easily, not trusting his loyalty, to often accusing his partner. You may also be afraid of losing your boyfriend, which can lead you to unnaturally adore your partner. Gradually, this trait can actually backfire on the harmony of your relationship both.
In short, the lack of confidence that comes with a relationship can easily change how you view your partner. Starting from here Steven Graham, Ph.D. as a psychology lecturer at New College of Florida and his team interested in conducting a survey about the effects of self-confidence in a relationship.
The study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, asked more than 500 men and women to fill out a questionnaire that assessed their level of self-confidence. In addition, the researchers also asked how they deal with the weaknesses of each partner's traits.
Insecurity can rob you of the intimacy of your relationship
The results show that people who lack self-confidence will not only always criticize their partner's shortcomings. On the other hand, they also always feel insecure on his love affair.
Heidi Riggio, Ph.D., a psychologist and assistant lecturer in psychology at California State University further explained that the low self-esteem that often haunts your feelings and thoughts is actually rooted in the negative thoughts that you create yourself. Not your partner's attitude.
You will feel that you have no advantages as a lover, are afraid of losing, and are even easily ignited by small things.
If it is not fixed immediately, it is not impossible that this condition will get bigger and bigger until finally ruining your love journey with your partner.
Is there a way to increase self-confidence?
A lack of self-confidence usually shows up and grows by itself in you. Therefore, only you alone can fix it and not even demand things from your partner.
The most important key is to get rid of your negative thoughts. Because it's useless trying to believe in your partner and your relationship, if on the other hand you are still haunted by negative thoughts.
Instead, you can start thinking and talking to yourself about the positive things that might happen in the future. You can also learn from previous experiences that you have various strengths and positive qualities that you can continue to forge. Because you realize it or not, over time what you think, whether good or bad, can turn into suggestions that then influence your actions.
So from now on, try to instill more confidence in yourself for complete happiness in a relationship.
