Table of contents:
- What are some habits that can destroy your marriage?
- 1. Make use of a partner
- 2. Obsessed with gadgets
- 3. Do not have the initiative to show affection
- 5. Argue all the time
- 6. Avoid sex
- 7. Make your partner a second priority
Marriage is something sacred, both parties must work together in building a long-term, even lifelong relationship. Not only aligning the vision and mission of marriage, you and your partner must also evaluate each other's self. Small problems when buried become big. You may not like some of your partner's habits after marriage. Want to argue, but afraid to hurt him. Maybe, your partner also doesn't like some of your habits, he also wants to reprimand, but is afraid to make you hurt. There are several habits that can destroy your marriage. What are these habits?
What are some habits that can destroy your marriage?
Here are some habits that are thought to cause you and your partner to drift apart:
1. Make use of a partner
After marriage, both you and your partner have their respective roles. The man may leave the kitchen to the woman, or vice versa, it doesn't matter if it's an agreement that both parties agree on. However, when you use it to serve you without giving in return, it can become an unhealthy relationship. You let your partner continue to serve you, without you giving back service to your partner, rarely even thanked him. Maybe your partner will accept it at first, but will feel neglected later on.
2. Obsessed with gadgets
You and your partner may be "addicted" to something. No need to look heavy. You, or your partner may rarely have time together to talk, but are very active in social media. Not infrequently when you have time together, both of you are fun to be with smartphone each. According to Lisa Bahar, a licensed therapist for families and weddings in Newport Beach Calif, who is quoted by the Lifescript website, "Your addiction to something can be the third person in your marriage." Not only social media and gadgets, addiction can also be addiction to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or excessive shopping.
Even though the addiction does not involve sex or adultery, still when something takes up more of your time it can make you forget your partner can ruin the marriage. Make sure you understand the value of marriage, and are aware of how these habits impact your relationship.
3. Do not have the initiative to show affection
Maybe you feel like your partner should be the first to show concern for you, so you don't take the initiative to show concern for him. You need to be careful, because this behavior can become a habit, even though you and your partner are well-formed. The bad impact, your partner can misunderstand the habit, he will also assume that you do not really care for him. Small attention can make your relationship and your partner more intimate. The way to overcome this bad habit is to try to slowly pay attention when you feel you can control your feelings, try to see the positive response you get.
5. Argue all the time
When we have an opinion, the goal is to be heard. But, what if one of you doesn't want to budge? Surely the solution will not be reached, right? Arguments can also become a habit. You may not be able to resist turning his words for a variety of reasons. Believe me, it will not end, you and your partner only reveal each other's reasons without presenting a solution. There is nothing wrong with talking well, listening to each other, without having to blame each other.
6. Avoid sex
If you start avoiding sex with your partner, your marriage may be in trouble. First of all, you may avoid sex because you feel tired, or else, your partner understands that reason. Gradually, you will get used to avoiding sex, hoping your partner will understand. Of course, your partner will wonder about your attitude, and the intimacy will be lessened by you acting like that.
Try to find out what makes you uninterested in having sex with your partner, whether the bond between you is loose due to frequent arguments, or something else. If that's the case, make sure you and your partner have the communication to solve the problem. Also, try to say 'yes' when he asks you to have sex, even if your mood says 'no'. You and your partner may still have orgasms. There are many mental and physical health benefits of orgasm.
If you are still unsure, try starting off with a hug for 10 minutes. Hugging releases the hormone oxytocin, and lowers stress hormones.
7. Make your partner a second priority
You may be focused on achieving other goals and targets, but that does not mean you make your partner the last priority, and forget about it in your plans. Your partner also has dreams, all you need to do is support him back. When family is top priority, it means that work is also on top, because you need money to achieve family dreams. The balance of priorities may not be achieved, but what is important you do is not to forget the partner in your plans.
