Table of contents:
- Why do women like to nip?
- Nyinyir is an outlet for the competitive nature of women from ancient times
- Sincing is a form of self-confidence that is vulnerable to women
Nyinyir has become an ingrained part of everyday life. Whether it's a nosy whisper to talk about an office friend whose weight is getting more fertile after marriage, writing scathing comments on your favorite idol's social media accounts about her choice of clothes that don't suit "eastern customs", or exposing the shame of other women who say "doers", aka usurpers. men people.
Actually, what is behind this cynical phenomenon - and why is this habit more labeled as a "distinctive" trait of women, rather than men?
Why do women like to nip?
A joint study from the University of Ottawa and McMaster University in Canada through an experiment found that almost all women feel threatened by other women who are superior (whether in terms of physical, material, or success). As a result, the reactions they display in self-defense can vary from making a sour face to verbal, even physical confrontation.
Researchers observed that there were differences in the reactions they displayed when they met a woman who looked totally different - one very sexy and the other one that could be said to be lousy and unattractive. In fact, these two different figures are the same woman.
The reactions of the women in the trial differed markedly in the two cases. When he is met with a sexy woman, he is greeted with whispers of scorn and condescending looks. This "socialization" exchange does not only occur between friends, but those who are strangers to each other actually foster "friendships" through this cynical act of congregation.
After the woman left the room, several women laughed at her and made unsavory comments about her appearance. Unsurprisingly, when the same woman changed her "costume" to become unattractive, not a single woman in the room raised a voice or reacted negatively.
Researchers believe that the reactions displayed by the women participating in the study reflect what happens in the real world. According to them, women tend to behave in this way on the basis of following a primitive instinct to try to survive by eliminating competition.
Nyinyir is an outlet for the competitive nature of women from ancient times
A literature review by Tracy Vaillancourt in 2013 found that women make hints of one another in an attempt to uplift their own “values” - to make themselves appear more attractive than their rivals.
The public and the media indirectly form the opinion that if you want to have a better mate and a more successful personal life, a woman must look beautiful and look like a supermodel. Women realize that in order to be seen and appreciated by the wider community (especially men), they are forced to fight with other women for the prize.
Starting from here, not a few women take advantage of the beauty of their face or the efforts of hard work to get what they want - of course there is nothing wrong with this. So it is not surprising that women who do not fall into the "superior" category become jealous and jealous.
The subconscious that has evolved since ancient times encourages women to protect themselves from physical harm, so that aggressive nature indirectly keeps us safe while keeping competition out. The difference is, women in ancient times were really involved in the act of killing to get their idol. Now, women fight at the speed of verbal and finger typing on smartphone keyboard keys.
Sincing is a form of self-confidence that is vulnerable to women
Competitiveness and self-confidence are two characteristics that must be present and most underdogs in every man, even though they have been encouraged since childhood. Ironically, although women instinctively share these two traits, competitiveness and self-confidence are often seen as qualities that are not necessary for women.
Boys develop these two important characteristics through competitive sports and academics. This is what makes men feel more comfortable when involved in a competition. They see winning as only a small part of the game and often don't feel guilty about seeing their rivals lose, so it's no surprise that they were able to maintain their friendship after the competition. This means that boys see a competition as the glue of solidarity between others.
Inversely proportional to women. They are taught not to compete or try to outdo others, because this is a masculine trait. A good woman is obedient and does not pay installments, he said. In the end, in situations where competition is present but aggression cannot or cannot be channeled into a positive action, this trait becomes stifled and poisons the body.
As a result, what could have been a healthy competition turned into a grin of a mixture of guilt and shame for secretly feeling jealous and wanting another woman to fail - as well as avoiding retaliation. So what appears to be hostility between women is actually to mask other people's feelings of worry, anxiety, and fear of success.
Interestingly, in male friendships, where men and women often compete in different arenas, this issue of competition usually does not come into play. Women instinctively do not perceive men as threats or as vulnerable and sensitive as their female counterparts - more like “exalted” figures as places to seek approval for their identity. Therefore, it is less common to find women who are offensive to men. Of course, not all women are cynical. Well, are you one of them?
