Dating or marrying for a long time makes love fade, it is just a myth!

For those of you who have been in a relationship with your partner for a long time, you must have often heard comments, " Not bored, tuh? ". After being in a relationship for a long time, the sensation of passionate love will indeed decrease, unlike at the beginning when you first met. However, is it true that love fades with time?

Based on the research conducted, it turns out that the quality of a relationship can affect the level of love itself, not the shortness or length of the relationship. A love affair that is not accompanied by an obsession brings satisfaction and a sense of love, even for long-term relationships. Even based on research conducted on couples who live happily, the longer their relationship, the higher the sense of affection and commitment between partners.

Research was also carried out on couples who separated and found a very surprising fact, that there was a decrease in satisfaction and commitment, but not in terms of love levels (even though they decided to separate, their levels of love remained the same).

The length of the relationship cannot be the only measure

A relationship must be based on affection between the two parties. If only one party dominates or only one party is working on the relationship, then of course the relationship cannot develop. So actually how long you've been in a relationship doesn't really matter, as long as both parties are committed to supporting each other.

In addition, a lack of mutual respect and low trust in your partner can make love fade.

The existence of problems in the relationship that are not resolved properly certainly also affects the level of love. For example, if there is a problem you have cranky and do not want to talk about it, just hope your partner understands the meaning and content of your thoughts. Of course, this will not produce a solution, only frustration so that over time love fades.

In essence, there are many factors that affect the level of a person's love for their partner. So, having been in a relationship for a long time does not automatically make love fade away. There are definitely other factors that you need to think about and talk about with your partner.

How do you maintain love if you have been in a relationship for a long time?

The key to maintaining love, especially if you've been in a relationship for a long time, is to maintain trust in your partner and self-confidence. Both of these can produce a feeling of calm and not leave you feeling jealous and worried about cheating or other things your partner might do.

The reason is, many people who are in a relationship for a longer time become more possessive and tend to control their partner. In fact, it is this desire to always control and dominate a partner that can cause love to fade.

Always try to be there, when your partner is having a hard time. Listen to his complaints, or if your partner doesn't want to talk at length, show him that you are with him and want to be with him. If the two of you can apply this, then the feeling of comfort and trust in your relationship can also increase, even without you knowing it.

Apart from applying the keys described above, you and your partner can also do a number of things that can build romance with your partner, including:

• Try to be warm and respectful to your partner, even if you are bad mood or during a fight.
• Be open with your partner and be a good listener.
• Give little surprises that can show that your partner is a special person in your life.
• Spend some quality time with your partner, even if it's only for a moment.
• Give support to your partner when he's having a hard time.
• Doing new things so that the relationship doesn't feel boring. For example, both try new types of sports or join volunteering in a community.