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He said, the PDKT alias was more beautiful and joyous than the dating period. But for some people, let alone the time to feel the bitterness of dating, they are actually heartbroken first because the crush suddenly disappears and disappears without any news like being swallowed up by the earth. They are just left unilaterally without any clear or definite cause, even though it's a shame. This phenomenon is popularly referred to as ghosting . Have you experienced it?
Ghosting is not a new phenomenon, but lately this term has become more popularly used by young people who are in love. Especially in the era of modern technology like now.
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1. Choose play it safe
According to Rachel Russo, a relationship adviser in New York, there are many things behind a person's decision to suddenly disappear without a word. They generally feel this is the best way to imply that they are no longer interested or have no feelings for you.
They think that disappearing is one of the safest solutions to avoid potential problems. They do this to avoid the consequences of the awkward situation or drama that usually occurs when having to talk heart-to-heart about the future of the relationship. Maybe because you are afraid or don't want to face your reaction.
The reason is, not everyone can just accept it if the relationship is to be ended by one party. Offender concerns ghosting to your reaction that may be angry, rejecting, crying, and screaming, makes them feel discouraged to tell the truth.
2. Prevent the relationship from getting deeper
Not a few people feel reluctant to tell the truth that they no longer want to continue the relationship. I don't know what is the reason behind it. Maybe you are bored because you have known each other for so long that ordinary conversation feels "tasteless". Maybe he feels that you are not as attractive as he first thought, or that he has a new "target" for attachment.
They may also think that there is no point in being in a relationship or even taking the time to let you know that the relationship is over.
So instead of continuing to let you get carried away and trapped in an ambiguous relationship that is clearly not welcome, they choose to cut off contact right away without much "fuss."
According to the perpetrator ghosting , disappeared without any news the effect would be less painful than if you had to speak frankly. The reason is that if the relationship is allowed to continue, the nurturing feelings will be stronger so that the hurt when left behind will also feel even more painful.
3. The he lacks empathy
There are many people who feel it is natural to do so ghosting for seeing it as a normal or even polite way to end a relationship.
Just disappearing without news can be a sign that the person lacks empathy and tends to be selfish in everything. The he may not even care about your feelings. So that, he will just let you go without saying goodbye or a word or two. Moreover, a sense of pity or heart.
In fact, whatever the reason behind someone's decision to disappear without a word, ghosting can cause psychological injury to the "victim".
