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Humans often make mistakes in life, both big and small. However, even after realizing that this is true, people are often reluctant to say the word sorry.
Many don't want to face pain when apologies are ignored, others don't want to be seen as weak. In fact, apologizing actually provides more goodness, not only for the emotional state but also for the health of the body itself.
The benefits of apologizing to others
Sometimes, there are times when the mistakes that have been done have accumulated over a long period of time. Not infrequently this also has an impact on the relationship with the person who was hurt. Unfortunately, many choose to forget and harbor feelings of guilt in their hearts.
A clinical psychologist at the Morris Psychological Group named According to Daniel Watter, Ph.D. researching this. According to him, apologies can have a negative or positive effect, depending on how a person is doing it.
If it is not done sincerely, it is a sign that someone still has various negative emotions in their heart. Unfortunately, these feelings don't go away and can even be vented in the form of anger, or when they get too complicated it can lead to depression or anxiety disorders.
Not only that, anger that takes over can have a negative impact on the nervous system which will prevent a person from thinking clearly. These negative emotions can also trigger several stress-related conditions such as heart disease or muscle aches.
In fact, when apologizing sincerely and truly realizing his mistake, a person will feel more relieved and will no longer hold back negative emotions.
In a study conducted in 2014, 337 participants who apologized in advance when there was a conflict with their partner managed to reduce the level of anger they felt.
Of course, apologizing does not only benefit the guilty party, but also the party who is the victim. Another study conducted in 2002 showed a favorable effect on victims of mistakes when imagining receiving an apology from the person who offended them.
These effects include a slowed heart rate, decreased blood pressure and sweat levels, and decreased pressure felt on the face.
Sometimes, when the wrongdoer apologizes, the victim who was hurt will find it much easier to see them with a more humane view.
If the wrongdoer really apologizes sincerely, even though the event is long past, the victim will be easier to forgive.
Avoid the word "if", admit mistakes with a big heart
It's not easy to admit mistakes and say sorry. Even though the word sorry has been spoken, you will not get any benefit if you do it by force or just to feel "important already I am sorry".
Everyone does have a way of admitting mistakes, both spoken and deeds. However, there are some wrong steps that are often taken when someone apologizes.
Some of them use words such as "If I was wrong, I'm sorry" or "I know I was wrong, but you are wrong too."
Instead of relieving the burden of the victim, they may even think that you are worse off because apologies that seem insincere.
Having apologized and forgiven doesn't mean that you can hurt others again and fall into the same cycle.
Apologizing means that you are fully aware of what you have done. Try to sit for a moment, inhale slowly, then think about the burden that will haunt you. Imagine if your relationship with other people doesn't get better because you don't take the first step.
Also cultivate empathy in your heart, position yourself as the party who is hurting. If you go through the same thing, what will you feel and what will be done. That way, it may help you to be more aware of other people's feelings.
Remember, even though you later experience rejection, at least having apologized has the benefit of relieving the guilt that can haunt your mind.
