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Everyone wants to have a healthy relationship. But of course nothing can be achieved for free without effort, especially from yourself. Psst… You must have these two attitudes (as well as the him, you know!) So that your relationship will always last and be harmonious until old age.
Lasting romance requires mutual trust and openness between one another
Trust is one of the main foundations in building a healthy relationship. Without mutual trust, you will continue to be shrouded in suspicion and anxiety about your partner, which in turn can actually damage your relationship.
Cultivating an attitude of trust can be quite difficult, especially if you have been disappointed before. However, know that without an attitude of trust, your relationship with your partner will not last long. The slightest bit of distrust that grows in your heart about your partner's attitude or actions will potentially cause problems later on. Suspicion and anxiety can also get in the way of other positive attitudes that can only arise with trust. Of course this makes all your efforts to maintain the relationship in vain.
Mutual trust will also make it easier for both of you to open up to one another. Ironically, covering up important secrets from your partner, including who the people closest to you are (including your ex), your sex life, medical history, personal financial information, or even drug and alcohol abuse tendencies, is a fatal mistake that many people make. people when in a relationship.
No matter how long you've been dating, you need to know your partner inside out. Likewise with him. Starting from feelings, dreams, views, vision and mission of life, hopes, to fears and weaknesses. Your openness to your partner to show who you are in even the most vulnerable situations can help strengthen your relationship. Once he knows what you are like during the worst times and he stays by your side, you no longer worry about your relationship. Vice versa.
Showing mutual trust and openness to one another is essential to cultivating and strengthening intimacy. If you trust your spouse, it will be easier to raise any concerns or share your darkest secrets without fear of being judged. the more open a person is to his partner, the more intimate the relationship will be. Vice versa, the closer a person's relationship, the trust will grow. That way, someone will be more open to their partner.
Not everyone can be open to anyone except for those they really trust. Therefore, you are one of the lucky people if your partner is willing to be open.
Start small
Starting to develop trust and openness can be started with small things. For example, when your partner says that you are going to be home later than usual because of work, then you need to believe that. Do not just immediately accuse him of doing things without reason just because you are blinded by jealousy.
Big trust will not grow if you don't start small. Remember, treat others the way you want to be treated. So, if you want your partner to trust you, all you need to do is believe in him. That way, automatically the reciprocal relationship will run well.
Then, try to be open to trivial things, such as expressing how sad you felt when your pet got sick. Even though they are trivial and seem insignificant, it is from these little things that greater self-disclosure will emerge. Maybe you and your partner include people with introverted personalities who are not used to expressing things easily. For that, start from small, trivial things before moving on to reveal bigger things.
When you start it, it is very likely that your partner will be moved to open up to you too. This is what is known in life as the reciprocal rule. This feeling will appear when your partner first expresses his feelings so that it makes you feel "He can tell, why can't I tell you either."
It is also important to remember, when a partner has revealed the most personal things about him, never ignore it. Try to show your enthusiasm and empathy for responding. This way, your partner will feel like he's opened up to the right person and he will treat you the same way you did him.
Even though it may seem difficult at first, putting your trust in then opening yourself up to your loved ones is not a wrong decision. This can make a lot of positive changes to your relationship if done right.
