Threesome fantasies seem seductive? this is how to tell your partner

Most people have one, or more, sexual fantasies that they keep deep inside. Whether you want to try BDSM sex in the style of the hot film 50 Shades of Gray, roleplay doctor and patient, in a crowded place, or perhaps a fantasy of threesomes. The problem is, how do you bring up this "naughty" topic to your partner? Although having sexual fantasies is natural, not everyone can gracefully receive this information. If you have made up your mind to practice your sex fantasies in the real world but are still confused about how to convey them to him, consider the following tips.

How to let your partner know that you have a sexual fantasy that you want to try in bed

Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can be a positive experience. You don't have to be silent. By sharing your biggest secret, the he will feel special to be the first to know it. It is not impossible that the tit for tat will be welcomed. Follow these steps and slowly start bringing them into the wild in your mind.

1. Realize first that your sexual fantasies are normal

There is an assumption that sexual fantasies are forbidden, a disgrace, which can separate the distance between partners. Not if you know how to convey it. Before sharing your secrets with others, you must first feel good about yourself. The reason is, you are responsible for introducing your wild fantasies to your partner.

If you can accept that your dreams are normal and can convey them with confidence, your partner will be more receptive to open arms to explore further. It is your self-confidence that may also "invite" him to tell his own sexual fantasies, which he may have been harboring - just like you now.

2. Bring up this topic when you're alone

Sharing secret sexual desires with your partner can increase mutual trust and domestic intimacy. For that reason, if you want to explore something completely new in your relationship, such as blindfolded and hand strap sex or making love in a mall toilet, talk frankly with your partner when you're together so that he will understand your feelings. For example, after dinner at home when the two of you are relaxing.

You can start like, "Oh, by the way, Last night I dreamed that I was being held hostage by a policeman who looks like you while he forced me to give him blowjob Inside the elevator is full of people. Wake up, I'm so wet. "Or, use other people's examples (not necessarily real people), for example," My friend told me that he and his girlfriend had sex in the parking lot. Isn't that crazy? What if caught? But lately I also thought about it…"

Threesome fantasy (source: shutterstock)

With a seductive intro like this, chances are your partner will be aroused by his instincts to stimulate you even more.

But one word of caution if your tastes are more extreme, for example, want to try anal sex with an artificial penis (known as pegging). Whatever you do, don't "surprise" him by just telling you what your kink fantasy is without warning.

3. Give hints through humor

If you are known as a person with a great sense of humor, this is a great time to put your skills to good use. Not only can humor help you get out of awkward situations, it can also make it easier for you to talk about sensitive things like sexual fantasies.

For example: You have a hot sex fantasy that involves hitting the butt with a whip, tying your hands unbuckled, and closing your eyes with a tie. Well, when he's busy asking you things, say something overuse with a playful but teasing tone, like “What do you want to punish me like what if I don't make tea for you? Here, just hit my ass. " The he might first be staring in surprise. But you can argue casually with, "Joking with…" So for the next, you can return to the topic kink or your fetish more relaxed.

4. Show what your kink / fetish looks like through pop culture examples

You could say, everything you can imagine is readily available in a lot of literature, from adult magazines, naughty comic strips, stencil novels, to Hollywood films. An example of the most popular and overtly discussing sex fantasies, fetishes, and kink is the 50 Shades of Gray trilogy, if you think showing him porn videos is too extreme.

You can invite your partner to start checking the waves through these options. Take a date to watch 50 Shades, for example, and open a chat by discussing the film. Ask him how he felt after watching it, and tell him a few scene the heat in the film is making you hot too, and you want to try it together.

Subconsciously, this follows the principle of social influence. People tend to choose to follow and emulate what they see other people doing (especially when those people are enjoying it). So, showing or discussing positive examples of "other people doing it too, really" of what you want will make your partner more interested and agree with it.

5. Take it slow

When you introduce your partner to your sexual fantasies or fetishes, start off clear but slowly. Don't rush into buying and flaunting latex whips, handcuffs, and fitted costumes for tonight's lovemaking session. Start one at a time, but be sure.

In the middle of a sex session, try to whisper to him your desire to make love three of them: "You know what I'm imagining right now, and make me very aroused? There is another woman who is licking my pussy when you enter it from behind."

Bondage sex fantasies (source: shutterstock)

Maybe he won't just invite other people to join you the next time you make love. But, when someone is aroused, someone will be much more suggestive and more open to various things (That's why making decisions when you're excited is a step that is not right.)

So be patient. Occasionally mention your sexual fantasies at the right moments for clues to action. First of all, get him to buy fur cuffs and use them on the right nights. Then repay the rest of your fantasy over time until you get the whole piece.

Starting slowly will give your partner time to get used to it, adjust to, and feel good about the new atmosphere. It will also make it easier for him to come up with the "yes" word to explore any other wild ideas you have to offer.