Female masturbation is different from men, how do you do it?

Knowing how to safely masturbate can be a fun lesson. By masturbating, you learn about your own body. You find out which parts of the body feel the most sensitive and pleasant to touch, caress, and stimulate. Once you know this, it will be easier for you to guide your partner in bed so that you both have a better sex life.

Here's how to safely masturbate in women

Masturbation, like most things, takes practice. The only way to learn to masturbate is to try it. If you've never masturbated before and don't know where to start, here's a complete guide to female masturbation.

1. Prepare free time

Masturbation will be much more enjoyable and satisfying when you are relaxed and comfortable. If you are going to masturbate, make sure that you are not distracted. This usually means that you need to lock your bedroom door so that people can't bark come in and annoy you. If you don't have a key, wait until no one else is around.

There are many ways to start a spark of passion. Most men prefer sensual pictures or videos to accompany him to masturbate. Women, on the other hand, are often more passionate about words. So reading a novel or snippet of erotica fiction, or even playing a romantic song can boost your passion. Many women, like men, fantasize during masturbation, by imagining partners, other people, or various other sexual scenarios.

2. Prepare the lubricant

Sex lubricants are not only useful during sex with a partner. Water-based sex lubricants are the best type of lubricant for masturbation, because they are slippery and sticky so that the vaginal skin will not be easily irritated from strong touch or pressure. If you don't have lubricants, lotion or baby oil just as powerful and can be an alternative.

Alternatively, you can use natural lubricants such as coconut oil or almond oil. Oil not only feels good on the skin but is also safe. In fact, any lubricant is better than direct skin contact without lubrication. As long as the lubricant does not contain added chemicals or alcohol which can cause burns or irritation to delicate skin.

3. Do not rush to orgasm

You may be impatient to start masturbating right away, but it's better to keep slowly building up the anticipation for it in order to experience a stronger orgasm. Start by slowly stroking, touching your thighs to your stomach and breast area. Try listening to your body to find out where it feels best when stimulated.

Your breasts are probably the most sensitive and feel pleasant to touch, or they may be behind your ears. The key is to keep experimenting with touch and find what works best for you and your body. Continue doing this for 1-2 minutes before finally lowering one hand towards your groin.

4. Don't focus on just vaginal stimulation

The easiest way to masturbate is to play the clitoris with your fingers. In most cases, clitoral stimulation is their preferred way of masturbating for women to achieve orgasm. Sit or lie down with your legs wide apart. Start by exploring the lips of your vagina and run your index finger between the cleavages to expose your clitoris. At this point you may want to start using lubricants. Use your hands to caress and stimulate the clitoris and the area around it. You can use a mirror to see your intimate area more clearly.

There are a number of different ways to stimulate the clitoris, from gentle one-finger touch to more intense massage. You can also ride the armrest on the sofa or a pillow that is firm enough to provide a saddle for you to get constant pressure on your clitoris.

Stimulate your clitoris with a flicking motion from top to bottom, or vice versa. If you are very sensitive, make circular motions around the clitoris. Run your finger along the inner labia and down the side of your clitoris, continuing toward your vaginal opening. This is a good starting point for getting a heavier flow of blood to your intimate areas and helps increase arousal and satisfaction.

5. Carefully select the penetration tool

Sometimes, just a naughty touch isn't enough to get you to climax. Therefore, many women try to perform simulations similar to penile penetration by inserting an oval object into the vagina such as a banana or cucumber. This object is not intended as a sex toy, so it is quite dangerous, especially if it has rough or brittle edges and can crumble easily.

You can use special sex toys. One thing is for sure, clean your hands and objects that you will use for penetration both before and after masturbation. Don't forget to cover it with latex condoms. You don't want to have a bacterial infection or vaginal abrasions after you're satisfied with your solo sex session.

6. Don't think too much

When learning how to masturbate to women, there is one trap you should avoid which is setting the goal that you have to orgasm. This way of thinking can actually put you under a lot of stress and can lower your chances of actually reaching an orgasm.

Conversely, a better way to masturbate is aimless. You have to see it as a way to relax and give yourself a moment to pamper yourself. Don't be afraid to try and get creative with masturbation sessions to find a rhythm that is most comfortable for you.