Table of contents:
- Like what action can be called bullying or bullying?
- What should I do if I see bullying?
- 1. Record every incident
- 2. Collect evidence
- 3. Divert the perpetrator's attention bullying or the victim
- 4. Seek help
- 5. Talk to someone who can stop bullying
- Stop bullying it starts with yourself
Schools and social media aren't the only places it's happening bullying or bully. You can see this in action on the street or at work. According to a study, bullying at work is even more likely to make a person feel depressed than the pressures of the job itself. So, what should you do if you see bullying ?
Are you just going to record the incident and spread it through social media? Well, the explanation below can help you take a stand when you are exercising bullying wherever and whenever.
Like what action can be called bullying or bullying?
Bullying is physical or mental violence when one or more people attack or intimidate another person. This action does not only occur when the perpetrator physically abuses the victim, such as hitting, slapping, or kicking.
Bullying also can be done without physical violence. For example, taunting, making fun of, calling someone as contemptuous or rude, it can also spread gossip about the victim or humiliate him in front of many people.
Many people are afraid to stop bullying or report it for two reasons. First, being afraid of being the next target, secondly you don't know what to do when you see bullying .
What should I do if I see bullying ?
According to research in the Journal of Human Relations, those who see bullying or witnessing bullying at work is likely to want to resign quickly, even if they are not the target. So that you do not become a silent witness, here are things you can do when you see bullying as quoted from Psychology Today.
1. Record every incident
Write down any bullying events that you witness each day. Write down what the perpetrator did and said bullying to the victim.
You don't have to keep watching until suspicion, you just need to record what you happen to witness. Don't just record when these perpetrators commit physical violence. Also note things related to action bullying such as messing up the victim's bag, spreading slander, and so on.
2. Collect evidence
If you see bullying and find something that can become evidence in the form of recordings, photographs, or objects, keep the evidence as good as possible. You never know when you will need it later. For folder specifically in a laptop or cellphone to store this evidence.
If the evidence is in the form of objects, keep it in a special place to store it. Make sure you store it in a safe place. Plus, there's no need to tell a lot of people that you've gathered a lot of evidence. All you need to know is the victims or the authorities. For example the HRD manager, boss, or the police.
3. Divert the perpetrator's attention bullying or the victim
When bullying happens, you don't have to act heroically to save the victim from the situation. Instead, the perpetrator's ego is injured so that he will take revenge in an unexpected way. For example, when you go to the kitchen, you see your co-worker bully by his boss.
You only need to distract the offender by asking him to chat or pretend to be looking for a certain cutlery and ask the perpetrator for help to find it. If the perpetrator doesn't pay attention to you, you can help the victim by saying, for example, “Eh, Pak Fajar is looking for you, you know. Looks like you're going to discuss your proposal yesterday. " That way, the victim has a reason to immediately leave the perpetrator.
4. Seek help
Admittedly, it was hard to help the victim bullying alone. This is why it is important that you seek support and help from people who are also fed up with seeing bullying done every day.
The more help you manage to collect, the longer the builder will take bully will be outnumbered. This will also help the victim not to feel alone, let alone an outcast.
5. Talk to someone who can stop bullying
Victims of bullying often feel afraid to speak up, they are afraid that you will not stand up for them or feel neglected if they talk about this. If this is the case, you can directly talk to someone who you feel can stop the bullying.
If this happens at the office, you can talk to the HRD or the supervisor in charge. If you are on campus, you can talk to the head of the study program. Meanwhile, if it happens in your neighborhood, please report it to the head of the local RT or RW. As a third party or witness, you are in a better position to provide an objective explanation of the negative behavior.
Stop bullying it starts with yourself
Many of you may have seen it without even realizing it bullying. Whether it's on campus, office, or around your neighborhood. During this time you may choose to ignore this and pretend you don't know. However, this means that you are the same as the perpetrator who allows the victim to continue to be oppressed and humiliated.
The problem is, most actors think that their actions can be justified. For example, because he felt that it was all the fault of the victim who was too weak or annoying. Therefore, you and the people around you must be firm in showing disrespect and dislike for the perpetrator's actions. Show that bullying is simply unacceptable in your social sphere.
